Posted by: SanityFound on: September 28, 2007

I have been called many things in my life time of which only one I feel is true and that is that my belief in people is childlike. I always see the best in people, believe in their goodness only to have my heart broken when I find out that in fact this is not the case. Time and time again it happens, time and time again my heart is broken, I never learn, I always hope.
There comes a time when reality checks in, when a persons true colours shine through and one see’s them finally for who they really are. People always seem to walk this planet with alterer motives, their selfishness is personified, finding friends, true friends is trial and error.
In this world, as I have said before, you get 3 types of people – there is always three…
The first type are the MMM’s (me me me’s), they are the most common, they are inherently selfish, they do not take the time out of their lives to query whether a friend is ok, they are only interested in what you can give to them.
The second type are the G&T’s (give and takers), they are the ones that can give and take, there is a a medium if you will of give and take.
The third type are the GGG’s (give give giver’s), they are the ones that give all but expect nothing for themselves, they give selflessly and unconditionally.
My theory is that there are more type one people in this mad world which explains why in life you will come across them more on a day to day basis. The second type swings between the first and the third so they are more difficult to categorise but at the end of the day there are fewer of them. Now the third type are a rare species I find, I have only ever known a couple in my life time, sad as it is they are hard to find, but the fact is, when you find them they are like the blossom on a cloudy day.
Think about it, in reality there are no bad people, just people that make you feel more grateful for finding a GGG…
… just another boring rambling by a wondering soul…
i feel like reading my own story, too…maybe this is life’s cycle..finding and losing. And losing is painful – and worst, it makes every memory even more painful. Now, i am on the merge of losing one. And God, I wish I can ‘unremember’ everything..but i could not. i have to go through this stage of losing. And next time, if i don’t want to be hurt again..maybe be i should take on Lewis’ advice on how i can keep my heart unbroken. “Love anything and your heart will be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact you must give it to no one, not even an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements. Lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket–safe, dark, motionless, airless–it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable. To love is to be vulnerable.”
[...] those dark days of the MMM’s (Me Me Me’s full description in my post Friendship Lost) every day that passes I am shown that there are indeed more GGG’s out there than I ever [...]
it sucks being a giver.
December 11, 2007 at 9:05 pm
hi. I just read your blog – the thoughts about “friendship lost” and for long minutes i couldn’t move – cos it was like i read back my own words! Its so rare to find something like this – and im happy that i could find somewhere (by accident) on the net! Thank you! And the strange is that we are so common:( i never pretend about ppl that they are bad – never ever in life – and those who are clever enough know how to use this.
SO many times they broke my heart… even that who i loved the most in this world. But im still saying: we cant judge somebody just by his/her bad or good attitude, cos a person is complete with this two character together! Cos even dark doesnt exist without light – the good doesnt exist without bad. We need the balance… God bless you – and wish you to find your GGG’s, cos im sure they are few – rare – but they are…regards and best wishes from Hungary!