Nothing worthwhile is ever easy…

I have a few quotes that I live by, the one that has stuck with me the longest is probably “Live life like there is no tomorrow”.  That one for me has the strongest meaning and encompasses who I am and what I stand for.

Live life like there is no tomorrow… what does it mean to you?

For me it is…

  • Living life without regrets
  • Being honest in both my actions and my words
  • Treating others as I want to be treated
  • Experiencing both the ups and downs with the taste of life in my mouth
  • Laughing as much as possible
  • Seeing all sides to stories and doing my best to understand them
  • To not give up at the first hurdle
  • To cherish those in my life as much as I can
  • To always let those I love know that I love them
  • To learn new things constantly
  • To face any challenge head on and to learn through them
  • To experience new things, eat new food and to see new places

The other one that I quote often is “What will be will be”.  This one frustrates more than a few because it is interpreted that I just don’t care or that I am not going to work for what I want, go along for the ride like a piece of driftwood.  For me though it means accepting what is and working with that.  If plans don’t happen then there will be something better along the way, I will follow my gut and heart, not get discouraged at the first hurdle. I believe in a life plan and trust in that… most days.

I adopted another a couple of years ago during the time I was climbing out of my breakdown and back into the world.  It wasn’t so strong back then, merely a phrase that I adopted and held onto without having the courage to look at the true depth of the words.

Nothing worthwhile is ever easy…

For me, for this lifetime, that phrase has gained more and more meaning.  I have sought freedom for many years now both from my past and my present, I’ve fought to travel to new lands and to live by my first quote.  The one thing my freedom hasn’t been is easy, it’s come at great cost and torment.

My thinking though is life is much like a toy that is built quickly and cheaply won’t last long and the pleasure will be short lived, the toy won’t be treasured as much either.  A toy that takes time and care to build out of materials that take time to source will out last anything made in a quicker fashion, it will be treasured more because of the pain it took to create.

I see this with kids all the time, give them a task that is easy for them they will feel less accomplishment and satisfaction, same goes for adults. Give a kid a simple lego set including 100 pieces and they’ll follow the instructions no sweat, they won’t stress one bit or get upset.  Once the lego set has been completed it is put on the shelf till an adult starts dusting and quitly puts it in the lego dungeon where it lies unmissed.  Give a kid a complex lego set with more pieces than the first and they will cry in frustration, perhaps even through the odd tantrum, they will proverbially pull their hair out, try to give up, come back for more, try again and again till they succeed.  Once that complex lego set is built though it takes pride and glory over all others, it goes on the mantlepiece, treasured and shined, it never goes near the lego dungeon for if it is moved one millimeter it is noticed.

Even though the complex lego set was harder to build, even though it hurt them emotionally, frustrated them and brought them to the brink of accepting failure they perservered and they feel a sense of accomplishment and success through it all.

Nothing worthwhile in life is ever easy.

We get taught this early on in life but we don’t see it, only in time and after many challenges do we start to get a sense of the truth, do we realise that sometimes it is better to get challenged because the pleasure and happiness will last longer in our success.

We live. We Learn.

So my two long standing life quotes “Live life like there is no tomorrow” and “What will be will be” get an official friend… “Nothing worthwhile in life is ever easy”

Do you have life quotes and what do they mean to you?

Balance and the Threads of Life

There is another DNA secquence that isn’t as obvious as the one discovered by the scientists.  The one that I talk of is the undercurrent, unspoken, often unthought of, more mysterious one.  Our DNA is fixed, we all have a unique set that may be similar to others but not exactly the same unless by chance we are a pure bred identical twin and even then the chances are very very rare.

The one I talk of is not fixed, you stand in the centre and it swirls and twists around you, turns and changes colour, is multicoloured and adapts to our evolving truth. These individual strands swirl around us, our spirits, they may be similar to others but are unique to our set of circumstances and who we are.

Some of these strands move faster than others, some have brighter more vibrant colours, some wider, some thinner.  Each one  holds a different option, different task or lesson we either have to learn or can learn, our loves and our wants, our passions and our purpose.  As time progresses, as we evolve, each morphs into something else adapting to who we are, who we are meant to be and the situations we find ourselves in.

At any one time we can grab onto a strand and go along for a ride.  We can grab onto the passion strand, love, family, career,  humanity, compassion, hate, anger, hobbies, the list is long, and follow it for a while till it evolves and we release it back into the whirlwind of change.  Sometimes those strands, depending which we grab onto and hold close to us become strong and connected to our core being, they become umbelical cords to our soul.  Perhaps it is the other way round and those core strands exit our bodies and swirl around us mixing in with the other strands, it is different for each, that is my belief.

Sometimes though we can grab onto a strand in the whirlwind that we feel is the one we are meant to keep forever, we hold it so tight and focus so hard on it that we soon only see that one colour, the colour of that strand, we become blinded to all others, they pale in comparison.  When the other strands start to pale the balance within the whirlwind becomes unstable, all the “weight” is on just the one we are holding onto so tightly, we lose sight of the rainbow around us, the bigger picture because our vision is narrowed.

The make up of  the strands I talk of is much like a yarn of wool, the more threads you put into it the stronger it becomes, the longer it will last and the more “weight” it will be able to withstand, it will become more elastic and flexible, more resilient and perhaps even more colourful.  If not given the chance to gain all those extra threads it will become weak and fragile, it will start to fray quicker and soon snap in two.

More so, even if the strand you are holding so tightly onto is strong, one strand can only last so long.  Hold onto two strands and they will last longer, remain strong.  Hold onto 5 or more and they’ll hold your weight for longer still but go with the evolution of the strands, catch and release, learn and grow, find the umbelical cords attached to your core and use the others for balance and you will keep those strands healthy, keep them moving forwards in time with you, you prevent the possibility of fray and weak threads.

Balance.  Think of a musician sitting behind a piano playing a beautiful melody, there is always an under current, those few keys he always hits but the other ones that he brings into the melody make it beautiful, make it the symphony that is heaven to our ears.

Being an Ordinary Superhero

It’s a hard life being a Superhero don’t you think? I mean you get up out of bed, put your special gear on, decide whether to put your underwear under your clothes or above, brush your sparklies in your mouth and hopefully your hairballs, don some funky kick ass shoes and start your day.

You either walk or jump in your car mobile that is painted in your superhero colour scheme and off you go to work or to school.  Once there you interact with a wide variety of people, some that require superhero levels of patience, some that need guidance from your wisdom bank and perhaps others that step on your newly polished shine in the dark feet.

You finish your day by another trip in the car mobile or leg mobile and head homeward.  Homeward you extract the Superhero “day clothes” and don the Superhero “Evening garb”, prepare some superhero food and perhaps enjoy some specially fermented grape juice.

Bed time arrives and you once again brush your sparkly whites, don another set of superhero bed clothes and head to dreamlands of your choosing.

The normal day by most standards, add in a few kids here and there for those Superhero’s who have reproduced or found themselves with sample superhero’s and voila you got your day.

What makes the ordinary Superhero a Superhero?

The stuff in between that is so natural as all of the other stuff that it doesn’t even feature in a mentionable, its ordinary and normal for them and more often than not goes unnoticed.

Walking outside ready for the day the Superhero see’s a hurt or sick animal and goes to it, tries to help it, feed it if it needs feeding and keeps it warm.  The Superhero tries to heal it if it can, it doesn’t really stop till it knows it can’t do anymore for the animal in its care.

On the walk to the office or school the Superhero see’s a child or person trip and fall down.  The Superhero doesn’t just walk past and act like he or she never saw it, they are the ones that stop and help them up, brush off their knees if the situation requires and makes sure that they are ok before continuing.

During the day they come into contact with someone that seems to be having a bad day, the Superhero stops what they are doing and tries to change that persons life just for a few moments by spreading a bit of light.  Sometimes the Superhero is successful, sometimes not, but he or she tries anyway in the hope that they will make a slight difference.

On the way back home the Superhero eats the sandwich he or she forgot to eat for lunch, as he or she walks down the road they see a poor person sitting on the side of the road eating out of a plastic bag that looks like its original destination was the garbage can they sit next to.  The Superhero bends down and gives the person the other half of his/her sandwich smiles and walks on smiling.

As the Superhero goes about his/her day they don’t really think about all their Superhero duties that they accomplished or did, they don’t think to tell the first person they meet or greet, they smile internally knowing that they tried to help another living thing and that is enough for them.

They are the ones that lie in bed at night thinking of ways to help more, they worry about the animals and if they are fine, they worry about the children and the other Superhero’s, they concoct ways to fix things and dream of a world that is different.

A Superhero is ordinary by all accounts, a human with faults and gifts, but a Superhero they are for sure.

Life suckers

Oh the rhymes you can get just from that word alone… admit it and say it out loud… go on dare ya!

Life suckers that gain glee from finding a fresh piece of juicy meat to gnaw their mangy blunt teeth on.  You know the type, the ones that latch on and suck you dry of all you have replacing your positivity with negativity, inch by inch you become a prune of what you used to be.

Wrinkles covering our faces are nothing like the ones inside, being sucked dry from inside out leaves deeper grooves than could ever be seen upon your external skin and the damage far deeper.  Depending on how long the sucker has been leeached onto you, your body will start immitating the state of your soul.  Your walk will change and become sluggish, your feet not quite lifting off the street as you walk, your head is heavier and leans more forward than straight upwards, instead of facing the world your eyes fall to the fall.

Life suckers are killers, there is no pretty way of putting it and point blank they don’t deserve the meat they are sucking on, you.

Symptoms of the Life Sucker virus:

Guilt trips for simple things, this may include things such as not wanting to do something that the other wants to do in the form of “Fine, sure, I’ll go alone” or “Well I won’t eat alone so I’ll just skip”.  The list for this one is long and varied, take your pick and add it to the list.

You discuss something exciting, either an idea or something you want to do, with them and they turn around and give you a negative either about why you can’t do it or point blank why it won’t work without stopping to hear you out.

They criticize you in anything you do, nothing that you do seems to meet the grade even though they miss the boat more often than not

You greet them with happiness and they respond with negatives either about you or themselves

They expect you to fix their lives instantly and when you do something to help them they turn round and spit in your face

You listen to them for hours and they ask your advice only to turn round and do the opposite or better yet ignore everything only to come back to you soon after to talk about it all over again.

They treat you well to your face and then when you turn your back you find that others come to you telling you things about yourself you didn’t even know

Place more here…

The list is long, perhaps you recognise a life sucker in your life and can think of more examples.  If you’re willing to share lets hear them, the more comprehensive list of symptoms we can get the better equipped we will all be in extracting this killer virus, sometimes hidden by smiles, from our lives once and for all.

The thing is, once you realise you have a life sucker in your life extracting those mangy blunt teeth is not as easy as appearances belie.   Sometimes those teeth belong to family members, life long friends or even people we can’t easily remove from our lives such

as work colleagues and the likes there of.

The only cure is the realisation of what they are, once you’ve come to this realisation that they are Life Suckers you will start noticing all the things that they do to you, the things that drain you of your spirit, your energy, positivity and happiness.  Once you start noticing all the little things they slowly start building up to the point that you have enough resistance to their venom and become strong enough to say “Enough is enough” or better yet “I am worth more than this, I want my energy and life force back, fuck off”

Yeah I swore, no pretty way of saying it like I said.  Ok so perhaps not in those exact words but you get the point, perhaps you can soften it up by telling them to go find someone else to suck dry because you’re done or tell them that they need to find happiness within themselves because living and laughing for two doesn’t quite work.

Killers these Life Suckers are, don’t let them suck you dry because one day you’ll wake up and you will be the very thing that sucked you dry.

Scary shit

Swore again but how else do you say it with the same emphasis?

Take back your life, it’s time…

Pig Personality Test

Do this, and don’t cheat by reading the whole thing first.  It’s hysterical if you do it right! Get a BLANK piece of paper and draw a picture of a pig on it, just a basic drawing, don’t spend all day on it.

DRAW THE PIG BEFORE YOU GO ON. IF YOU DON’T IT WONT WORK!!!

You must NOT scroll down until you draw your picture.  No cheating … REALLY… It will spoil the fun

Go on draw the pig first…!

Done?

Ok so here is the interesting stuff …

The pig serves as a useful test of the personality traits of the drawer. If the pig is drawn:

Toward the top of the paper, you are positive and optimistic.

Toward the middle, you are a realist.

Toward the bottom, you are pessimistic and have a tendency to behave negatively.

Facing left, you believe in tradition, are friendly and remember dates (birthdays, etc..)

Facing right, you are innovative and active, but don’t have a strong sense of family, nor do you remember dates.

Facing front (looking at you), you are direct, enjoy playing devil’s advocate and neither fear nor avoid discussions.

With many details, you are analytical, cautious and distrustful.

With few details, you are emotional and naive, you care little for details and are a risk-taker.

With less than 4 legs showing, you are insecure or are living through a period of major change.

With 4 legs showing, you are secure, stubborn, and stick to your ideals.

If there are more than 4 legs, you are unrealistic.

The size of the ears indicates how good a listener you are.  The bigger the better.

The length of the tail indicates the quality of your *ahem* sex sorry love life!!!!

(And again more is better!)

OK, who didn’t draw a tail?

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